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A woman said her mom brought friends to her wedding who were not on the guest list
She's now worried her mother will do it again at her baby shower
The woman shared her story on a popular Reddit forum to get advice from her fellow Redditors about the frustrating situation
An expectant mother said her mother crossed a line at her wedding, and she's worried history will repeat itself at herupcoming baby shower.
The woman, who is six months pregnant with twins, explained on Reddit's"Am I the A------?"forum that she doesn't want her parents to invite their friends who aren't on the guest list to her baby shower.
"My request for no extra guests comes from past issues at my wedding," she explained, adding, "My husband and I limited the guest list to 100 people — 50 each because of the venue size … My mom ignored this and invited a high school friend I'd only met twice."
The original poster (OP) said she then reiterated that the high school friendwas not invited, but her mother never relayed the message and the friend — as well as a plus one — attended anyway.
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"Fast forward to baby shower planning," she continued. "I visited my parents and used the opportunity to set boundaries. I told them that my husband and I went through the guest list together and that no one else could be invited."
The OP said that her dad agreed, but her mom "immediately became defensive, claiming the wedding incident was an 'accident' and that I should let it go."
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The OP said she told her mom that she had a "right to be upset" over the prior incident, which prompted her mother to tell the OP she should be "grateful" that her mother's friends want to celebrate special occasions with her.
"Shestormed offto her room and slammed the door. I haven't spoken to her since," the woman added.
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"I just want a baby shower without unwanted guests. Am I the a------?" the OP asked at the end of her post.
Redditors were quick to assure the woman that her feelings are completely valid and that her mother is in the wrong.
"Girl! Absolutely NTA [not the a------]. Your mother is flat out ignoring your boundaries. She's the type that thinks just because she's your mom, she can do whatever the f— she wants and get away with it. Please put your foot down!" one person said.
"NTA [not the a------]," added someone else. "And your mom has big main character energy. Exhausting."
Someone else urged the OP toset firm boundariesand stick to them.
"Let her know that next time this happens, not only will she be kicked out from the event, but she won't even be invited to the next one. Tell her you would love to see her at the twins first birthday but that is her decision if she'll be there or not. It's harsh, but she sounds like she needs a reality check," they said.
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